What do we really value in humans?

Humans are underrated or are they?image-indiv-sub

My passion is helping leaders develop and for this to be really taken seriously What’s happening?

Lets put these views in context

A complex digital world where ‘faster and faster’ are the buzz words, 24/7, the now mentality

Organisations are scary places full of traps and pitfalls for those who don’t know the rules of the new age

Geoff Colvin argues in his new book that ”Humans Are Underrated

  • Computers are evolving faster than we are
  • So what will the high value skills of tomorrow be?
  • Are we growing an army of experts or luddites
  • The surprising value of our deepest nature
  • Why the skills we need are withering
  • Empathy lessons from the army
  • Teams work because they are human

The future will be about what you’ve like rather than what you know

  • People are strange
  • Relationships are what matter

It’s tough out there, humans are feeling replaced

Harvard business school and Henley management centre talk about directors CEOs feeling isolated at the top trust is diminishing different layers have their own agendas unity is a pipe dream

Some questions

Was trust really there in the first place?

Who can we trust?

Can we trust ourselves?

How do we realise our potential?

What gets in the way?

What helps us?

Former Google CEO Eric Schmidt says the best advice he ever got was to get a coach. Bill Gates emphatically says everyone should have a coach. Venture capitalist Fred Wilson advocates coaching too, especially for first-time CEOs.

If you’re considering coaching, here are 10 ways you might benefit:

  1. Hard results – greater productivity, faster promotions, bigger profits
  2. Deeper learning about yourself, how you’re perceived, where you can improve
  3. Faster action with greater precision
  4. Space to hear your own voice to talk something through and gain perspective
  5. Awareness of beliefs, and attitudes that may be holding you back
  6. Clarity on your values and what you stand for, the real you
  7. Ideas for ways to improve that you may not see – awareness of blind spots
  8. Emotional support, empathy, and encouragement – feels less lonely and isolated
  9. The cold truth others won’t tell you
  10. Support for improving specific skills – communication, delegation, conflict management, team building, persuasion, etc

What coaches are not?

Cheerleaders, therapists, counsellors, friends, spies, my plea to you is get a coach, try it out, to be unafraid

To thyne own self be true” ok then what is thyne own self?

What makes your heart sing?

What nags at you in the middle of the night?

What is this imposter doing inside you head?

It’s good to talk, it’s even better to talk and be really listened to, challenged and understood

A coach should have two prime skills above all else 1. How to question and 2. How to pick up what remains unsaid

A coach’s job is to

  • Notice
  • Listen
  • Challenge
  • Support
  • Create a safe place

Humans are not underrated, just human they need to grow their own self belief and with that their own self awareness

This is an extract from ‘The Hole in the Sum of my Parts’ by Matt Harvey

“Part of me is truculent: don’t look that way at me

Part of me is succulent – suck it and you’ll see

Part of me’s detestable – or so people have said

And part of me’s suggestible – or so people have said

Part of me’s competitive – it only wants to win

And part of me’s repetitive – or so people have said

Part of me’s interminable – it goes on and on and on

And on and on and on and on and on and on (and on)

This part of me’s prolific – it writes reams and reams and reams

And part of me’s terrific But most of me is dreams”

Another Poem Prelude – The Dance

What if becoming who and what we truly are happens NOT through striving and trying but by recognising and receiving?

How would this shape the choices you have to make about how to spend today?

What if you knew that the impulse to move in a way that creates beauty in the world will arise from deep within and guide you every time you simply

PAY ATTENTION and WAIT

So executives, managers, leaders take up the challenge of having someone challenge your thinking and question your actions and reignite your dreams, get a coach

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Can personal and professional change or transition be separated?

Well, it depends on how extreme either is. Even the most motivated, driven and/or successful person has a tipping point.

So, what do people do to get in their own way?
Sometimes it’s about making connections when there are none
Sometimes it’s about failing to make connection
Sometimes it’s about thinking without feeling, not drawing upon all the information you have.
Recognising closeness to the tipping point:
Being stressed. By this I mean seeing the stress negatively or not listening to yourself
Withdrawing becoming hyper self critical.
Stop panicking
Throughout our lives and careers we all have to cope with times of change, either of our own making or where we are pushed into it.

There’s no denying that change can be scary, but that’s normal. There are several perfectly justifiable and normal stages that we go through. The first is normally panic, followed by confusion and then a need to find out more information. You can’t subvert those stages, but by helping people through that process and by encouraging them to do things that are positive and productive it can change their view of the situation.

When career coaching, the first and the only piece of advice I would give would be to stop panicking. Of course, that’s very easy to say and quite hard to do. In my experience people tend to react far too quickly. For example, if they are losing their job they will often write their CV the day after they know they are going and send off several applications straightaway. But they are still at the very beginning of a personal change process where they are learning about what they need to and how to get there.

By really taking some time to explore what they’re good at, what they enjoy doing, what the most important thing for them is about their new role and what outcome they want, is a vital process. It provides the best possible start to know how to move forward and I’ve found that getting this key stage right saves people huge amounts of time, effort and anxiety later. If it’s not carried out properly they’ll keep coming back to it.

It’s also often the case that things are not as bad as they seem. So it’s a good idea for people to write down the worst case scenario. After writing it down and thinking about what would be the worst that could happen, it usually doesn’t seem as bad and some of the anxiety disappears and it becomes more manageable. We have a tendency to over think.

I also like to challenge people’s assumptions about what they can do and help them think things through calmly and rationally and above all to do things that are productive to help them change their view of what’s around them. By following this process it’s possible to start that person’s own journey to where they want to go by helping them come up with the solutions themselves.

My 5 top tips for transition and resilience

1. Establish goals, both small and large
Crisis situations are daunting. They may even seem insurmountable. Resilient people are able to view these situations in a realistic way, and then set reasonable goals to deal with the problem. When you find yourself becoming overwhelmed by a situation, take a step back to simply assess what is before you. Brainstorm possible solutions, and then break them down into manageable steps.

2. Keep working on your skills, everyone is a work in progress
Resilience does not involve any specific set of behaviours or actions, but can vary dramatically from one person to the next. Focus on practicing some of the common characteristics of resilient people, but also remember to build upon your existing strengths.

3. Embrace change and look for what you are learning
Flexibility is an essential part of resilience. By learning how to be more adaptable, you’ll be better equipped to respond when faced with a life crisis. Do something different every week!

4. Build positive beliefs in your abilities
Research has demonstrated that self-esteem plays an important role in coping with stress and recovering from difficult events. Remind yourself of your strengths and accomplishments.

5. Invest in and look after yourself
When you’re stressed, it can be all too easy to neglect your own needs. Losing your appetite, ignoring exercising and not getting enough sleep are all common reactions to a crisis situation.